OK so I'm fucked up, what's it to you?
It's looking good that I will be getting together with Linnea for a brew. We'll discuss collages, art, and tell each other about ourselves. How long will it take me to screw this up. It seems as soon as a woman I am interested in finds out I am a twice divorced father of four; them seem to vanish without a trace. Maybe I should keep my mouth shut and cleverly disguise myself a normal person. . . whatever that means.
Yesterday I had a 10AM meeting at Think Spot . Hopefully, I will be working their grand opening / open house this Thursday evening. This morning I had an 11AM video shoot with an English Film Crew doing an educational film. We shot at the Market. The project will be completed by August, at which time I should be getting a copy.
Only got in one hour today at the Market before it started raining. Oh well.
posted by Tom Frank at 6:54 PM
3 Comments:
please also be aware that people who are potential dates might just google your name. It's a fun party game... when they do they will find your blog...
Just a tip from JR
5:14 PM
Maybe you want to wait a bit before you mention two divorces and four kids.......unless of course she mentions her two divorces and four kids first.
8:37 PM
well.. you have total control over anything and everything that you present of/about yourself.. so, your past history is only as big a deal as you make it appear. If your take is "Hi I'm twice-divorced dad-of-four Tom" that does have the potential to sound like you think it's a negative, to someone else. Don't shoot yourself in the foot with defeatist thinking (de-feet-ist, har-har-har). Be open, approachable, honest, sincere, and upbeat (positivity is attractive) - don't minimize the importance of your children to you if that comes up, likewise, skip the negative aspects of divorces and past relationships. Focus on what's good and going right in your life, and make yourself argue for your possibilities, not your limitations. Express interest and curiosity about her, and don't let yourself get psyched out about trying to make an impression - be yourself. Keep things low pressure so as to remain at ease, and have fun with the experience of getting to know someone new - treat it like what it is, just getting to know someone. And if you like her, ask her to do something again.
11:34 PM
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