Child Support Enforcement Officer

Ms. Hoblitzell,
I received a child support check directly from my ex wife in Cincinnati. It was for $150. The other half will go towards the money I owe her. Is it OK for it to go this way, or do we need to be doing it differently? My ex (Mary Frank in Cincinnati) wanted to go outside of the system to make payments and take care of the arrearage in this fashion. It's alright with me, but I am concerned about the proper credit going towards my account . What are your thoughts in this matter. I told her that I would rather take care of the arrearage first than begin to accept money now.

I finally got a job. I am not happy about the rate of pay as it is only $26,000 a year. I can't possibly give half of that to my ex wife (Moira in Issaquah who received her $400,000.00 trust fund a year ago) and still pay my bills. I am deep in debt with creditors after me at every turn.

I really need your help in figuring out how to make this all work. As I told you on the phone, I spent the last few months street performing to make ends meet. Now that the rainy season is here that is not an option. Working 40 + hours a week (with no overtime) in retail as well as caring for my teenage son who flunked out of school in Cincinnati after a year and a half with his mother, (I had custody of him for a decade) getting him back on track academically, as well as spending time with my other 3 kids and worrying about my failing financial scene is my week at a glance.

When we spoke on the phone I couldn't help but feel that there was an adversarial relationship between the two of us. What I heard you saying was that it was your job to squeeze every possible penny from me. Did I misunderstand what you were saying? I would rather have a more proactive relationship with the WSSR. As I have said in the past, I want to pay my child support. But when my choice is to feed my family (my 14 year old son and my 3 other kids when they are with me) or send a check; I am between a rock and a hard place. What do other people do in this situation. Am I eligible for food stamps or other state assistance? Who do I contact to try and adjust the support amount? I am trying very hard to get back on my feet. The choice is yours, help me up. . . . or knock me down and step on me.

Very Truly Yours,


Tom Frank


PS I am two months behind on my phone bill. Call me at 206 335-1545 before it gets disconnected.