I forgive her and pity her - when did she stop being human

November 8, 2005


Dear Mr. Feldman:

I did receive your letter sent via e-mail on Friday 11-04-05. As agreed, Mr. Frank was scheduled to visit with the children in Ellensburg from 12N-6:00PM on Sunday 11-06-05. Mr. Frank telephoned that morning communicating the need to cancel this visit due to the rock slide that closed I-90. I did appreciate his advanced notice regarding this change in plans. However, during this conversation, Mr. Frank further stated that he would re-consider visitation if “I wanted to put up him and Buster on my couch for the evening”. Again, I find it totally unnecessary for Mr. Frank to continue making these types of inappropriate comments and/or remarks during telephone conversations or messages. I know you previously informed Mr. Frank to refrain from this type of conduct by keeping all communications brief and solely about visitation. It appears that Mr. Frank chooses to “do what he pleases”. I would greatly appreciate you discussing this matter (again) with him.

As discussed in our telephone conversations on Wednesday (11-02) and Friday (11-04), I am in agreement with visitations on “alternating” weekends. The letter dated last Friday was Mr. Frank’s first and only commitment to arrange and/or exercise a scheduled visitation since January 2005. The children have prior definite commitments which include numerous upcoming weekends. Due to these facts, and the stability of uninterrupted weekend time, I believe this alternating schedule to be reasonable and in the best interest of the children.

Again, per the Commissioner’s recommendation, Mr. Frank has the opportunity to exercise half-day visitation with the children in Ellensburg during the week. If Mr. Frank wishes to reconsider and exercise this option, please notify me in advance of his requested date(s). This will allow me ample time to verify the children’s schedule and confirm their availability on those dates.

In addition, Mr. Frank did not make any arrangements to exercise his scheduled holiday visitation last year as outlined in the Parenting Plan. Based on this fact, I respectfully request to be notified by 11-18-05 of his intentions regarding these same scheduled holiday dates for this year. This will eliminate the uncertainty experienced last year in planning other activities for the children on these respective dates.

In regards to the exchange of children, it may be necessary to cancel a scheduled visitation due to inclement weather conditions, whether in Ellensburg and/or Seattle. If this situation should occur, I understand Mr. Frank will contact me by telephone. Based on the hectic schedules of three small children who vary in age, I rarely have the need (and/or opportunity) to leave Ellensburg. However, if I ever conduct business away from home on one of Mr. Frank’s scheduled visitation dates, I will contact him by telephone. At that time, we can discuss an alternate public transfer location which would assist him in the transporting of the children.

Again, I appreciate your communication in these matters. Please notify me, as soon as possible, if Mr. Frank intends on exercising visitation on Sunday, November 20th. Thank you for your time in this matter.

Sincerely,

Moira Tynan


My response

Mr. Feldman,

How about if I take them to the weekend activities so that I can see them every Sunday? With the pass closed often through the winter, this will increases the chance that the kids will actually get to spend some time with their father and brother. I would love to be involved with their weekend activities!

She offers up weekday (half day visits). Should I be taking her up on this? I'm not too happy about 4 hours in the car for a 4 hour visit. I've been patiently waiting for over two years for overnight visits. I can wait longer. I would have figured that she would have come to her senses by this point and stop taking her hate and anger out on the kids. Such a shame.

She lies about last year and a holiday visit. She blew off my phone calls for weeks then took the kids to Cincinnati for Christmas. (that was last year or the year before) the fact of the matter I have never stopped asking and she has never stopped denying me valuable time with my kids. I still want to see my kids on Christmas Day if possible.

She denied me on Halloween and on Max's birthday. I just wanted an hour or two on either of those days and she wouldn't agree to that.



Frustrated. . . . but patient


Tom Frank